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Today at a Glance

• The client who quit 2 times on me

• The science behind Learning

• How I coach Deep Learning

• Action Steps for You

The client who quit 2 times on me

I often think about a client I worked with a year ago. He first came to me two years earlier with work and personal problems. He'd been through multiple therapies and clinics with no real insights or change. We started therapy. After 3 months, just when things got interesting, he quit.

A year later, he returned. He was fed up with therapy and had accumulated even more problems. We switched to a coaching approach (see How I coach). He quickly identified one core belief and corresponding emotions tied to an important relationship. He said he was having a breakthrough. Then he quit again.

He never said why.

Now, as I post content on LinkedIn and develop my coaching framework, I think about what might have gone wrong.

It brings me back to one point: Learning new things.

Are we open to change? If yes, how? How does learning really work for this specific client?

The science behind Learning

A large Meta-Analysis of Ten Learning Techniques examined 242 studies with 169,000 participants. We will break it down here today.

Simply put: Learning happens in waves. There's a rhythm to the interplay between focus, struggle, consolidation, and rest.If you sprint all day, you end up reactive (like my client).

Here's my neuroscience-based framework for optimal learning:

1/ Focus 🔕

↳ Focus on the bottleneck, not the comfort zone.

2/ Feedback 🌱

↳ Get immediate feedback and adjust the next rep.

3/ Friction 🏃

↳ Slightly beyond comfort so the brain has to adapt.

4/ Speed 🧭

↳ Slow is smooth. Smooth becomes fast.

5/ Rest 💤

↳ Stop when form breaks, not when the clock says. Get deep rest.

The study tested additional techniques. The 2 most efficient methods for learning are spaced repetition and active recall.

We created a thorough LinkedIn post covering this broader learning framework. The full content was too long for this newsletter. You can find the post here.

How I coach Deep Learning

If you've read this far, here's how I use this learning framework in coaching sessions to build emotional intelligence and teach emotional regulation. I call this synergy between learning and EQ "Deep Learning"—a nod to Cal Newport's concept of deep work (focused effort without emotional interference).

Here is my 5-step version:

1. Clients pick 1 thing they want to change deeply. A specific relationship, a symptom or an emotion.

2. We focus hard on the specific topic. No distractions, so a 1:1 coaching session is ideal.

3. We use a tool of mine I call Emotional DNA. It helps identify core emotions, beliefs, and behaviors tied to the most important relationships.

   • It usually hits hard and goes deep.

   • But: Struggle signals growth. Facing calculated discomfort is how your brain builds real strength.

   • This is called Friction. This is where the coach-client relationship must hold strong.

4. After step 3, we pause, rest and reflect.

5. Finally, we work out the next smallest step possible. Small routines compound into meaningful results. The client makes a commitment.

Action Steps for You

If you do not have a coach at hand, well, book a coaching session with me (see the P.S. below).

Or: I highly recommend doing this on your own, e.g. with the Pennebaker Protocol, see here.

You can always write me an email with your experience and results, I am happy to respond to it!

See you again on November 1st!

Yours,

Moritz

PS:

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PPS:

Today we know that Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is a core driver of successful (7×), high-performing (22×), and highly engaged (70%) companies. EQ also impacts customer loyalty (+5%) and profit (+25%), while saving significant costs in recruiting and change program ROIs.

In short: For leaders or future leaders it is the best time for Learning EQ and building your company.

I began coaching in 2023. Since then, I've coached over 20 executives, entrepreneurs, and high potentials. I've collected the most common challenges. Here are the top 3:

"l often feel overwhelmed and stressed. I rarely make time for physical activity or regeneration.”

"I feel emotionally unstable and have difficulties to stay calm and focused under pressure.”

"Managing people is emotionally and energetically draining for me.”

If that sounds familiar, Mastering Emotions is for you.

In it, I personally provide the 1:1 support, frameworks and coaching tools that you will learn to master emotions in just 3 months. The program includes:

• 1:1 personal coaching with me over 3 months (6 sessions)

• Coaching Tools like our Emotional DNA framework to identify core emotions, beliefs, and behaviours

• Neuroscience-backed methods and support to help you turn knowledge into daily actions, habits, and routines.

If you are interested in Mastering Emotions and want to learn more, book your free discovery call here.

If you're still undecided, no problem—we've got you covered. Take our Future Leader Quiz first. We'll send you a personalized analysis of your challenges and a potential outline of your coaching journey with us.